“Hell Is Other People”… Or Is It?
You’ve probably heard Sartre’s famous line: “Hell is other people.” And sure, on some days, it feels painfully true. The world is full of other people’s selfishness, inconsiderate actions, biases, and drama. It’s easy to get caught in the crossfire, especially when fear, competition, and scarcity are dialled up by a media machine that profits from our pain.
But here’s the deeper truth: the chaos around us only becomes our hell when we internalise it.
There’s a delicate dance between expanding into our full potential and staying grounded in what’s sustainable. We all want to stretch, grow, and evolve—but we don’t need to lose our integrity or sanity in the process.
The Trap of Anger and the Illusion of Control
Anger is a natural response to injustice or mistreatment. It lets us know when something’s off. But the real question isn’t whether your anger is justified. It’s whether your anger is helpful.
Are you solving anything by holding onto resentment like a prized possession? Or are you just keeping yourself stuck—mentally, emotionally, even physically? Anger that lingers can sabotage opportunities, poison relationships, and cloud our ability to see clearly.
Here’s a powerful truth: everything is created within you before it’s created outside you.
If you believe people are out to get you, your nervous system will respond accordingly. You’ll live in defensive mode, expecting betrayal. But if you believe in your worth, your vision, and your capacity to stay centred, that becomes your lived reality instead.
Choose the Paradigm Shift
Instead of being ruled by reactivity—whether it’s fear, resentment, or the need to be right—you can choose a different way.
You can take back your energy. Clean up your own self-concept. Stop outsourcing your self-worth to the behaviour of others.
If your brain is screaming, “I can’t believe they did that!”—pause. Breathe. Hand it up. Surrender it to the sky, the stars, the spirit, the Source. Return the mess to wherever it came from. It’s not yours to fix.
In that moment, you reclaim your power.
Wise Detachment Isn’t Indifference—It’s Self-Respect
You don’t have to absorb or analyse every painful behaviour you witness. You don’t have to heal or fix everyone you disagree with. That’s not your job.
Sometimes, the most positive thing you can do is simply take a wide berth.
Because trying to control, convert, or carry what isn’t yours will only weigh you down. Instead, focus on your own thoughts, your own feelings, your own centre. That’s where the real alchemy happens.
People are complicated. You have no idea what they’ve lived through. And they don’t know your story either. All we can do is work on our own responses, our own clarity, and our own peace.
When you choose clarity over conflict, perspective over pettiness, and healing over hatred—you’re not just helping yourself. You’re helping everyone around you feel a little freer, too.
Feel the Anger, Then Let It Go
You’re not meant to bypass anger or pretend everything’s fine. You’re meant to feel it—and then release it.
No matter your age or experience, you’re still learning. We all are. Life is the ultimate classroom.
The more you practise detachment and clarity, the more you contribute to a world built on fairness instead of fear. A world where equality feels like common sense. Where mutual respect replaces power struggles.
The world doesn’t need more rage. It needs more people who are balanced—people who can hold boundaries with grace and who don’t collapse in the face of judgment.
So don’t get mad.
Get balanced.
It just might save your peace—and the world.